Amelie Mag asked:


Divorce isn’t the most pleasant of things, but it is sometimes necessary. Although it can be a difficult period to go through, both emotionally and financially, by getting a good divorce attorney it can all be just a bad dream real soon. The San Diego divorce attorneys are some of the best attorneys in the world. Especially if you live in San Diego, California, they can help you best with San Diego divorce or child custody.

Most of the San Diego divorce cases have started from complaints filed by women. San Diego was a small town in the 1850’s, but the population slowly increased so, in a decade, the population almost doubled. Along with the growing of the number of people, so did the number of San Diego divorce cases. Because women filed most complaints, almost all of the San Diego divorce cases had the same grounds: physical cruelty. Sixty-three San Diego divorce cases were recorded between 1850 and 1880. Women filed forty-one of them and seventeen of them had physical cruelty grounds.

During a San Diego divorce, which can take moths or even years, one has to develop a special relation with the attorney. This relationship is like a partnership, which will probably last longer than the divorce time. A San Diego divorce case can last from six months up to a few years so, depending on how good the partnership with your lawyer is, he or she will understand exactly what you want and help as best as possible. If the partnership doesn’t work, it is not necessarily your fault. Well, indirectly speaking, it can be your fault because you made a bad decision regarding a lawyer to represent your interests properly. Getting the right San Diego divorce lawyer is very important for your future relationship with your ex or with your children (if you are fighting for child custody).

First of all you must make sure that he is familiar with the San Diego divorce cases and that he has some experience. Then you should look for a lawyer who had some success in the past and isn’t trying to fool you for a couple of bucks. False promises can get you to end up with nothing. Not all lawyers have the same techniques and not all lawyers know how to work any way you want. Some people like to have a fast divorce and settle it very quickly while others like to prolong the suffering hopping that his or her ex will drop the case and reach a settlement. Depending on which type of suit you want you have to pick the right lawyer that knows best how to represent you in a San Diego divorce case. Before a divorce, you should always have a plan that fits your wishes best. Through that plan you should get everything you want from your ex. If the plan is great, but the execution is not that good, it might fail, so you have to find a good lawyer that can put it into application. This is where the partnership comes into play: if the relationship between the two parts isn’t that great, the attorney doesn’t understand the wishes properly or if he has his own plan and you agree with it, then there are a lot of chances it will go wrong. A divorce is definitely not one of those things that you would like to go wrong because a lot of important things are involved, like different assets or children. They are more important than any fee you pay the lawyer.

Another dumb thing you could do during a San Diego divorce case is share the lawyer with your ex. Usually the ex-wife who wants to have an upper hand on her former husband proposes this kind of thing. That way she can control the amount of information the husband receives and the advice he gets. So, by trying to save some money, you could compromise your divorce. Another important thing when you’re looking for an attorney for a San Diego divorce is not to hire you’re wife’s best friend, relative or co-worker because then this kind of lawyer won’t be able to represent you as he or she should.

Some of the San Diego divorce cases involve child custody, which makes them even more delicate for the parents. In a child custody case, the parent who will be the rightful guardian will be chosen from the two. Child custody means that a parent has legal custodial rights and obligations towards the son or daughter. In a San Diego divorce case which involves child custody the court is usually the one that has to take the decision, looking out for the best interest of the child. Also, the court has the power to change the child custody arrangements until the child is 18. Because this decision will influence the whole life of the child, the court is responsible to make the best choice. A lot of things have to be thought of before making such a decision.

A divorce is a painful thing, especially if it involves child custody, but if you have to do something like this, at least you should do it right. Get the lawyer that best suits your needs even if it costs a lot because you will gain a lot more than if you get a cheap one. Make sure you or you lawyer have a plan and apply it. And don’t forget that however difficult the San Diego divorce might be, a life time spent with the wrong person is even worse…



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Steven Carlson asked:


San Diego County has over 10,000 San Diego County attorneys or San Diego County lawyers registered with the State Bar of California. Some popular cities within San Diego County where San Diego County attorneys may be practicing law are Alpine, Bonita, Bonsall, Borrego Springs, Boulevard, Camp Pendleton, Campo, Cardiff by the Sea, Carlsbad, Chula Vista, Coronado Del Mar, Descanso, Dulzura, El Cajon, Encinitas, Escondido, Fallbrook, Imperial Beach, Jacumba, Jamul, Julian, La Jolla, La Mesa, Lakeside, Lemon Grove, Leucadia, Lincoln Acres, Mount Laguna, National City, Oceanside, Pacific Beach, Pala, Palomar Mountain, Pauma Valley, Pine Valley, Potrero, Poway, Rainbow, Ramona, Rancho Bernardo, Rancho Santa Fe, San Diego, San Luis Rey, San Marcos, San Onofre, San Ysidro, Santa Ysabel, Santee, Solana Beach, Spring Valley, Tecate, Valley Center, Vista, Warner Springs, and others. With so many attorneys practicing law in San Diego County California, how do you find the right San Diego County divorce attorney or San Diego County divorce lawyer who can help you with your particular divorce case and/or child custody case?

First, an experienced San Diego County divorce attorney or San Diego County divorce lawyer should have experience and legal expertise in the field of family law. Family law covers a variety of topics such as divorce or dissolution of marriage, paternity, domestic partnerships, child custody and visitation, domestic violence, restraining orders, spousal support, child support, guardianship, adoptions, community property, division of property, and more. Some San Diego County divorce attorneys may specialize or have more experience than others in specific areas of family law. For example, some San Diego County attorneys are certified by the State Bar of California or an organization accredited by the State Bar of California as a specialist in the field of family law. Currently, San Diego County has approximately 150 Certified Family Law Specialists (CFLS) registered with the State Bar of California. These San Diego County attorney’s have made efforts to become State Bar certified in the field of family law.

In other words, of over 10,000 San Diego County attorneys in California, approximately 150 are Certified Family Law Specialists (CFLS). However, just because a San Diego County attorney is not a Certified Family Law Specialist does not mean he/she is not qualified and/or experienced to handle a San Diego County family law, divorce and/or child custody case. In fact, there are many well-qualified San Diego County attorneys or San Diego County lawyers who do not hold State Bar certifications. If you are searching for a San Diego County divorce attorney or San Diego County divorce lawyer and you do not know what to look for or where to begin, narrowing down your search to only those who practice family law in San Diego County may be a good place to begin.

Further, an experienced San Diego County divorce attorney or San Diego County divorce lawyer should have success representing clients on child custody and divorce cases in San Diego County. He/she will likely be familiar with the judges, processes, and procedures in the San Diego County family court which an attorney outside of San Diego County may not have. However, just because an attorney or lawyer is not located in San Diego County California does not mean he/she is not qualified and/or experienced to represent you on a family law, divorce, or child custody case in San Diego County. Ultimately, if you have a child custody and/or divorce case in San Diego County, you will want to investigate any prospective attorney’s background and experience and choose the right divorce attorney or divorce lawyer you believe can help you with your case and legal need.

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Amelie Mag asked:


Since the second half of the 19th century, when it started to establish itself as a regular practice among married couples, divorce gradually became the norm rather than the exception in the resolution of marital conflicts. Couples are now separating for reasons that used to be considered marginal or not legitimate. The workload of the courts has increased exponentially through the addition of the numerous divorce cases and so has the activity of attorneys.

Historically, San Diego divorce attorneys used to concern themselves only with severe cases, involving physical abuse inflicted by one of the spouses upon the other. Divorce was such a rare practice that it took serious reasons to push one of the members of the couple to face the psychological trauma of the procedure, its financial costs, and the associated public ostracism. However, concurrent with the women liberation movement, spouses started to understand more and more that marriage does not have to be a life-long commitment unless it brings happiness to both partners. As a result of this process, San Diego divorce attorneys, as well as many of their peers around the United States, found themselves facing an increasing number of divorce cases initiated on the most diverse grounds.

Facing this raise in the number of marriage break-ups and the psychological difficulty of the procedure, San Diego divorce attorneys and their colleagues began thinking up ways of making the whole process more humane. Apart from advising the couples on how to deal with the legal procedures, how to address the special situation of the children of the broken home, and how to tackle the financial costs, San Diego divorce attorneys thought up alternative divorce procedures to the traditional court rulings passed by judges.

The San Diego divorce attorneys were among the first to understand the inhumanness of leaving the conditions of ending a marriage up to neutral laws and judges and attorneys that are not personally involved in the case. This is not the way to deal with years of affection, mutual cohabitation, homes and children. The San Diego divorce attorneys realized the importance of out-of-court settlements, the terms of which would be decided by the members of the divorcing couple together, assisted by their attorneys. Other alternative procedures are the “collaborative” and the “co-operative” divorce, which give the opportunity to the two spouses to work together with both lawyers and jointly build up the case.

Through promoting these types of practices, San Diego divorce lawyers managed to bring about a change of paradigm in the thinking on divorce. Just like marriage should be perceived as something that the two members of the couple do together, so should the ending of the marriage stop short of being a conflict. Aware of the difficulty of a marriage break-up, San Diego attorneys try to seek out ways of making this moment pass as harmoniously as possible, both for the couple and for their children. The San Diego divorce lawyers are also conscious that by keeping up the positive communication between the two members of the couple and their lawyers, the two parties will be able to come up with the best settlements and avoid coming back to court again.

It is perhaps time to stop perceiving divorce lawyers as hawks that are just there to take advantage of people’s troubles for profit. The case of the San Diego lawyers and their great involvement with alternative divorce settlements makes a good case for this point. Closer than anybody else to the pain and difficulties of divorce, the San Diego divorce attorneys were best positioned to come up with ways of reducing the stress. It is important that the judicial procedures, especially in such delicate areas as family law, keep changing and adjusting themselves to address the needs and sensitivities of the people. After all, the justice system exists in order to make people’s lives and cohabitation easier. The justice system is not in place to ensure its own perpetuation, but it is set up in order to protect the well being of the citizens. The efforts of the San Diego divorce attorneys in the divorce-related procedures make it seem that the justice system has not forgotten its mission.



COTTA